How To Become The Hero To Your Own Story

I’ve heard this a lot. “Become the hero to your own story.” What does that even mean? What does it take to become a hero? The term hero is such a broad term that we apply to so many topics it can be hard to pin point just the definition, what is a hero?

The dictionary definition of a hero is “a person who is admired or idealized for courage, outstanding achievements or noble qualities.”

Becoming a hero isn’t easy. In the great words of Eric Thomas, “if it was easy, everybody would do it.” Becoming a hero takes courage. That is the most important part of being a hero. It’s not about the accolades. It’s about taking a risk to make your life and others lives around you better. Anyone can be a hero but not everyone will be.

Maybe some are born with it and others aren’t?

Maybe our situations in life mold us to become heroes and others never get pushed to do so?


Identify Your Problems

Be honest with yourself. Identify every problem in your life that you need to fix. Maybe your income isn’t where you want it to be? Maybe you want to be in better physical shape? Maybe your relationship just isn’t as fulfilling as you hoped it would be? Maybe you have massive loads of debt you need to climb out of? Whatever your problem is, identify it. Begin by making an action plan to solve the problem. Make steps that are tangible steps that you can take today. Not tomorrow, not next week, today. Your life is passing you by every day you put something off. I feel that it’s best to get it going when you have the momentum behind you.

Don’t make your action plan super specific where it will be hard to follow. Follow K.I.S.S. (Keep It Simple Stupid). Anytime I make a plan for either a workout routine or writing schedule, I don’t plan it to the T. I just block out a time to workout or write. You never know what life is going to throw at you but the most important thing is to just keep the ball rolling.

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Have Courage

It’s hard to start anything new. Anything worth attaining has risk with little tangible reward right in front of you. The rewards usually aren’t noticed for months to even years. It takes a lot of courage to commit to something like that because what if it doesn’t work out? What if you never get into the shape you wanted to be? What if you don’t get the raise you wanted at work even after working harder than anyone in your office for a year? Those kind of things are what holds us back to just living a mediocre life where we coast through everything. Do you want to die thinking that you had a lot of gas left in the tank? That you would have lived a life beyond your imagining?

It can take even more courage to start something new when you think you are just doing okay. Things haven’t got bad enough yet so you are just settled into your life. This is what happens when you let life happen to you instead of making life happen.

There will always be resistance to the call to action. Don’t let it stop you.

Let People Help You Along The Way

People where you gain advice from may come from the most unexpected places at times. We hear over and over again about how people say network but do not truly understand what that means. Networking is just being in the present with people. It means that everyone around you can have valuable information that could help you in life. Whether or not you decide to apply it is up to you.

People that can help you could just be people online. It could be people you work with. It could be your boss. It could be your best friend.

Remember that wisdom doesn’t correlated necessarily with intelligence. Even people who you may view as not being intelligent might have some wise things to say. Learn from their experiences and apply it to your life.

Death Of Your Old Self

Death can be viewed as a bad thing. Death is not necessarily bad though. We allow our bad habits to die. We allow a part of our personality die.

Change is hard though. It takes going at it every day and rebuilding yourself everyday. Because old habits are incidious. They come back in our subconscious without us even knowing.

Figure out what part of you that you’re willing to leave behind and work at it. Remember, every day you wake up different than the person you were yesterday. You’re not the same person you were yesterday, a month ago or five years ago. The experience of every day changes us and molds us into becoming who we are.


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Forgive Yourself Of Your Past Failures

It’s easy to think that if you just did this ten years ago or if you just did this thing slightly different that everything in your life would be better. It doesn’t matter. It’s done. The past is the past. Forgive yourself, learn from it and move on. Do not waste your energy on beating yourself up, use your energy to make yourself better. Focus your energy on your purpose and becoming who you want to be.

Don’t let critics get to you and remind you of the mistakes you made. We all make mistakes in life. Use the criticism for fuel to keep yourself going and prove people wrong. There will always be people in the world who will try to bring you down. The best you can do is to build your personal armor to keep going and combat it.