Life can get crazy sometimes. Sometimes we just feel like a log drifting in the ocean just to be pushed around by the waves. No sense of direction. We get stuck in our routines that seem monotonous. Routines aren’t a bad thing. Routines that feel meaningless are. Instead of being a log drifting on the ocean, be a surfer riding the waves. The surfer has a sense of direction but is also guided by the ocean.
We cannot control everything that happens to us in our life. We can control how we react to them. Sometimes we aren’t even aware of how we react to things and it all seems 100% normal. That’s why I’m a big journaler. I try to dig deep into my own psychology to see what is going on and if there is something subconscious I am doing that I am not even aware of.
Start Asking Yourself These Questions
I know a lot of these questions can be cliche and kind of vague but the trick is to ask yourself how are you going to get there? How and why? Be realistic. If you want to lose 20 lbs, be realistic about how long that will take. Write out what you have to do and don’t beat yourself up if you slip up once. The worst thing you can do is to slip up and then let the rest of your day go downhill and ruin an entire day.
What kind of relationship do you want?
How do you want to treat and interact with other people?
Do you want to quit your job and find a career path with more meaning?
What do you want out of life?
Define all your goals in life. Fitness, relationships, career, family, self care, health, everything. Ask what, why and how.
What I do is I’ll make a main bullet point in bold with the simplified point. Then below it I go into deep detail. I’m a big believer that when you write something out the organization matters to your subconscious on how you perceive it.
Go At Life With Intention
Being intentional about everything is probably the most important thing you can do in life. This is understanding your why. You might “feel” like going out and binge drink on a Friday night but to be intentional about it is to go at it with the purpose of unwinding and socializing with your friends. I’ve certainly had many time where I’ve wanted to go out and party then realized all I was doing was trying to mask the stress that I wasn’t confronting. Do everything with intention and whatever you do, don’t lie to yourself.
If you choose to do something, attack it— David Goggins
Many of us are afraid to push ourselves today. We read things about people being burnt out and I think we don’t want to put too much on our plates. That is all valid. Instead of adding something to your plate, eliminate something that you don’t need anymore. Do you have a habit of watching an hour of YouTube or any TV show on a daily basis? Cut that out.
Do you often get stressed out at work because you have too many tasks? Try to set a schedule every day at work that you can frame your focus in certain time blocks. Studies show it takes almost 20 minutes to get fully focused on a task so try to block everything else out. I know that when I started writing this it took me about 15 minutes to get into the writing groove.
Review Your Blueprint
Once you create your blueprint of what you want in your life, review it every now and then to remind yourself of what you want to do. Sometimes things change. Sometimes you may want to up the ante on your goals. Maybe your goal was to run a 10K and now it’s a marathon? Maybe you wanted to do a triathlon and now it’s an Ironman? Maybe you’ve reflected on yourself and how you treat people and want to change your own behavior?
Whatever your life goals are and whatever you decide to attack in life, I wish you the best of luck. There’s nothing more inspiring than seeing other people who are inspiring.